Postponing your wedding is difficult, but we’re here to help!
Out of all the life events that have been affected by the Coronavirus outbreak, weddings are among the worst to have had to cancel. 😢
It’s no secret that life right now is pretty crazy – and if you’re anything like me, you’re probably sick of the bad news and feeling a constant sense of dread.
If you’re getting married and having to cancel or postpone your wedding, I’d just like to say how sorry I am that you’re in this predicament. Wedding planning is stressful ENOUGH as it is. It’s okay to be upset, angry, and disappointed. It’s normal to experience a whole range of emotions during this difficult time.
With that being said, I want you to know that I am here for you! I think it’s safe to say that many of us wedding professionals feel for your pain and want to do everything that we can to make it better.
When life gets us down, we don’t give up – we adapt! And although this situation is the craziest thing many of us will EVER experience, we’re going to apply our can-do attitudes just the same and keep. on. trucking!! 😤
Without any further ado, let’s dive into what you should do if you’re considering postponing your wedding.
Step 1: Make the postponing call
Obviously, postponing is a pretty big decision – especially if you’re already knee-deep in the planning process. The news is rapidly changing, and it’s hard to say when all of this will clear up.
With that in mind, I highly recommend the #postponedontcancel mentality when it comes to making the call. From the standpoint of a small business owner, facing numerous cancellations at the same time is not ideal, which is why many vendors ARE willing to work with you and waive some contractual agreements for the sake of staying afloat.
If your wedding was happening this month or next, you might not have a choice. In this case, I’d suggest communicating with your vendors and setting a date far enough ahead that you have enough time to make adjustments.
If your wedding is far enough out, you may still have a chance. You’ll have to proceed at your own risk in this scenario and try to give yourself a two-month buffer or so to make the final call.
Step 2: Run your postponing options by your family members
Once you’ve decided that you’re postponing, it’s time to pick a new date! Talk to your venue to see what other options they have available.
For the sake of your family members (especially if you were planning on having some older guests in attendance), run these new dates by them to make sure they can still come. Everyone’s schedules are a little different than usual, but they’ll appreciate the courtesy.
Not sure which date to pick? I’ve got a whole post on choosing the perfect date HERE, and I assure you that this date can be just as memorable and special if you keep an open mind! 😁
Step 3: Prioritize communications
You’re going to have to chat with all of your vendors at some point or another, but it’s best to prioritize communications with the vendors that have to make major adjustments based on which services they provide.
Have a planner? Great! First, tell your planner that you’re postponing and allow her to act as a liaison between you and your vendors.
If you don’t have a planner (love that #diy life), reach out to your vendors in the following order.
- Florist, Caterer, and Rentals (all time-sensitive)
- Everybody else
Keep in mind that you may have to part ways with a few of your vendors just because it’s difficult to find a new date that works for everyone – that’s okay! Everyone understands that these are extenuating circumstances, and they’ll do their best to accommodate your needs. Try to decide which vendors are must-haves and go from there.
Step 4: Let your guests know you’re postponing
Don’t panic! Make sure that you’ve nailed down your official date and completed the first three steps before you reach out to your guests.
If you’re looking for a cost-effective way to keep them in the loop, try updating your website, sending an email, and posting it to social media.
Alternatively, you can send out a “change of plans” save the date if your budget allows it. By Invitation Only Ink has some really cute ones!
Step 5: Check on your marriage license
Make sure this is still valid based on your new date and make plans to have this taken care of!
Step 6: Make honeymoon adjustments
Traveling at the moment is pretty up in the air, so stay on the lookout for airline updates and restrictions. On the bright side, plane tickets are really cheap right now, so that may allow for some wiggle room in your budget!
Step 7: Relax!
You can STILL have the best day ever. Who knows? Maybe this will give you the opportunity to have an even better wedding than you had originally planned for. You can totally do this, and you’ll be married to the love of your life before you even know it. ☺️